I found this article quite interesting… What are your thoughts on the 6 signs of emotional abuse? Have you ever experienced any of them? Do you think an emotional abuser can change these behaviours? I’d like to think that they can, but they would first have to acknowledge that a) what they are doing IS abusive, and b) that they are in fact DOING it.
I have experienced emotional abuse in relationships, and my personal experience has been that the abuser does not, or cannot, see the abuse they are perpetrating. They feel justified in their reactions or behaviour. And because the abuse is not PHYSICAL, they cannot seem to fathom that it is in fact abuse. Or that it is damaging.
Emotional (or psychological) abuse is VERY damaging. So if you ever find yourself in a relationship where the person belittles you, reminds you constantly of your failures, or tries to control you in any way, shape, or form… GET OUT. Get out now! Because recovering from that abuse can be a very, VERY long road. And if you don’t recover from it, you will continue to end up in relationships where you are emotionally abused.
And now, add in bipolar to this mix. Being bipolar, I am prone to some foolish behaviour, some really fucking UGLY behaviour (as in ranting and raving, and screaming and swearing – wanting to throw shit [not actual faeces] at peoples heads), and total withdrawal from the world. Having all this (*motions big circle in the air*) thrown in your face when you try to talk to your partner about the stuff they say and do to you that you find hurtful and damaging, is doubly abusive. Well, that’s my opinion anyway.
GET OUT! Don’t fall for the charm, because they can be very charming. Even kind to you sometimes. That’s just to confuse you – to make you think you’re making the abuse up in your mind. You’re NOT. If you feel abused, you’re being abused. Its really just that simple.
A related article comes from a fellow blogger (bipolar1blog) on what to do when someone hurts you